There’s only one reason why cheaters cheat: Because they have a low self-esteem. Well, that’s the obvious reason, but let’s delve into the real reason why cheaters cheat:
If you’ve ever been cheated on, you know how much it sucks! You play it over and over again in your mind, and spend countless hours questioning why this happened to you, and what you did to cause it. You blame yourself. And, no matter what your friends, family or loved ones tell you, saying that it wasn’t your fault, you feel that somewhere, deep inside, that the reason your partner cheated is because of YOU. And, you are somewhat right.
People will tell you all the reasons why cheaters cheat. However, I am here to tell you that there is only one reason why cheaters cheat. But, before I get into that, I want you to consider these questions:
When you got into the relationship with said, “Cheater” did you question whether this was the right person for you? Did people warn you about the person? Or did you feel that you were compromising, for instance: Did you have to talk yourself into dating this person in spite of some nuance or behavior they exhibited? Did you let things go or push some reservation you had about the cheater aside? Was there something that just didn’t feel right about the cheater, but you went along with dating them anyway? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then it’s likely that you settled for the person that cheated on you.
When you settle for someone that you know deep down inside is not right for you, you set yourself up to be cheated on. Why? Because, even if you do not know how fabulous you are, trust me, your cheater sees you for who you really are. You may know that you’re a good person; a great person. But, because of your values, perhaps you learned not to flaunt your worth, or you learned to love and respect people for who they were not for what they did or didn’t have. And, while these are great characteristics to have, your cheater sees these characteristics as a character flaw.
Cheating Is Not About YOU!!
“Cheating is never about you,” is a lie! I used to believe that. I even tried to convince myself that it wasn’t about me when my cheater cheated on me. However, today I am here to tell you that when a cheater cheats on you it has everything to do with you, and here’s why:
The fact that you are in a relationship with someone that cheated on you makes it about you. And, while cheating has little to do with you not being a good person or bad in bed, your cheater chose to cheat on you because of you. It goes back to how cheaters feel about themselves. Deep down a cheater believes that since they don’t value themselves, something must be wrong with you if you see something in them that they don’t even see inside themselves.
Should Cheaters Get A Pass For Cheating?
Absolutely not! Sure, you can forgive a cheater. You may even decide to stay with your cheater and work it out. However, in no way should a cheater get a pass for cheating. For one thing, just like you, cheaters are responsible for their own actions. Therefore, in spite of how they feel about themselves or how much they blame you for their cheating, they have to be held accountable.
There is only one reason why a cheater cheats. And, in spite of what anyone tells you, there is no other reason other than this: Cheaters cheat because they don’t love, honor or respect themselves. They don’t value the sanctity of relationships because they don’t value the relationship they have within themselves. Bottom line!
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