One night stands have been indulged in ever since men and women realized that sex is fun. The thing about these one night stands is that they’re usually fast, simple, fun and have no strings attached.
There is another thing about them that many people don’t fully understand until they’ve had one or more. One night stands can be very unfulfilling and leave a huge black hole in your emotions. This is the reason that, if you’re looking for more than just sexual release, you’re going to want to avoid them at all costs. In short, do not become a one night stand.
Bars and nightclubs are pickup scenes, and unless you stick to those places ‘where everybody knows your name,’ you probably do not want to get too heavily involved in spending too much time in them, particularly if you’re goal is to find someone to have a meaningful relationship with. The exception of course would be if you’re going out with friends or on a date. Then, it can be fun to hit some a bar or a nightclub for drinks and dancing.
If you go out to a bar or a nightclub solo, however, you might be emitting signals that you’re looking for a quick hookup that can only lead to a one night stand.
When it comes to one night stands, it appears that men enjoy these encounters more than women, although there are just as many women who aren’t interested in long term commitments.
In these instances, these women deliberately go out to find men that are willing to have that fast encounter and then be on their way. Whether women like it or not, they’re more at risk of getting hurt, and becoming victims if they’re not careful.
The location of the one night stand can be anywhere from a bathroom stall, the back seat of a car, or up against a wall in a back alley. For woman hooking up with a complete stranger may not only be dangerous, but deadly.
Something else to consider regarding one night stands other than safety is that there are still various sexually transmitted diseases that you can catch. While none of them are pleasant, many can be treated and even cured. However there are still many that can either kill you, or simply cannot be cured. Obviously, if you’re going to engage in a one night stand, use protection.
If you’re not someone that really wants to make a lifestyle of one night stands, then take precautions to ensure that you don’t put yourself in a position where you may be tempted to engage in one. Put that energy and effort into finding the right dating site, matchmaker or dating coach that will help you meet someone that wants the same things as you do.
Always keep in mind that a one night stand isn’t going to bring you the relationship that you want. Anytime you feel particularly needy, it is much safer to keep your nightstand drawer outfitted with just what you need. In that way, you won’t be risking your life or your self-respect.
Collette Gee is a Certified Neuro-Linguistic Practitioner, a Violence Prevention Specialist and a Matchmaker, and Holistic Relationship Coach that helps men and women create and sustain healthy relationship patterns and behaviors. Click here to learn more about Collette Gee
