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When I read the news on Reuters, that Nicole Kidman’s husband had suddenly asked for a divorce — after years of marriage, sobriety clauses in their prenup, and what seemed like deep devotion — my heart went out to her. Some are calling her foolish for marrying for love, but I disagree. Choosing love is never foolish. In fact, I think we need more of it in this world, not less.
Was she blindsided? Maybe. Or maybe she saw it coming. Sometimes relationships don’t end because of betrayal, but because people simply grow apart.
Bus Route of Love
This is where I often use my bus route analogy with clients:
Let’s say every day you take the same bus to work. You know the driver, you know about his family, and you feel safe with him taking you where you need to go. Then one day, after years of riding together, he announces this is his last day on the route. He’s not quitting altogether — he’s just changing directions.
You feel upset, maybe even abandoned. But you don’t curse him out or call him names. You wish him well on his new path.
That’s what some relationships are like. People choose a different route. It doesn’t always mean they’ve stopped loving you — it may just mean they’ve outgrown the relationship or need something different at that stage of life.
Of course, I know it’s not simple. Divorce can involve children, finances, shared lives. It can feel devastating. But approaching it with gratitude for what was, and openness for what’s ahead, helps shift the focus from pain to possibility.
Nicole stood by her husband through addiction. She chose love. If he’s choosing another path now, we don’t have to frame it as her failure. Maybe it’s just another bus changing routes. So let’s wish her well on her journey — and remind ourselves that sometimes, letting go with grace is the bravest kind of love.
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