Get Over Your Ex With These 5 Affirmations

If you are having a hard time getting over your ex you are not alone.  “Breaking up is hard to do,” because a break up is a loss and losses hurt.  At some point you have to move on from the past relationship and move forward with your life. 

To assist you to be able to transition from your break up, below are 5 affirmations to help you get over your ex.  Before I list the 5 affirmations, let me first explain what affirmations are and how they work. 

Affirmations: What they are and how they work

Affirmations are positive words or phrases you repeat to yourself (out loud or within your inner-voice). These words should be inspirational and/or motivational, and are usually used to help change a belief or a behavior.  You can look at affirmations as a method of psychological reprogramming of the mind.  The idea is to affirm that your thoughts and beliefs are your personal truth. 

Even if what you are proclaiming is technically “not true,” you affirm that it is.  The objective is to affirm the same words or phrases to yourself on a daily basis until what you say to yourself becomes your actual state of being over time.

Okay, so let us begin!

I am worthy and I am deserving

The first affirmation to use to get over your ex is: “I am worthy and I am deserving.” 

Repeat this phrase to yourself whenever you start to feel low or lack confidence.  You can begin by using this phrase the first thing in the morning, saying it to yourself right after you brush your teeth or do your face routine.  You can also say it in the evening right before going to bed. 

Why this affirmation works is because after a break up it is normal to believe that you did something “wrong” to make your partner go away.  Or that somehow, you may not have been worthy and deserving enough to keep them from leaving.  By reminding yourself that you are worthy and deserving in the morning and the evening, you are reprogramming your mind to change a destructive and self-limiting belief. 

Remember, it is okay to wallow, cry and or even feel bad after a break up.  However, living under the belief-system (B.S.) that you are not worthy is not going to serve you in the long run. Therefore, use this affirmation to not only change your belief, but to also help you heal from the break up.

There is no competition; I am wonderful and unique being

The next affirmation to use to get over an ex is: “There is no competition.” 

If your relationship ended because your partner cheated you can use this affirmation to remind you that you do not have to compete with anyone. There is no one else on this planet uniquely like you. 

After being a victim of an affair or being cheated on it is common to believe that your partner left you because he favored someone else more.  The truth is that your partner may have cheated for a variety of reasons. Some reasons may have had something to do with you, some have nothing to do with you.  Whatever his or her reason for leaving, it is important to remind yourself that there is no competition — you are a wonderful and unique being.

This affirmation works because only you think, look and behave the way you do.  You start to recognize that you do not have to obsess over the new person in your ex’s life.  Nor will you feel the need to try to turn yourself into someone you believe he or she wants.  Instead, focus on YOU.  By focusing on you and all of your unique and wonderful qualities, you will become a magnet to the man or woman that is attracted to those attributes.  Hence, you will not need to compete with anyone. 

Everything in my life is working for my good

The third affirmation to use to help you get over your ex is: “Everything in my life is working for my good.” 

After a break up it is hard to imagine that anything in your life is working in your favor.  However, the fact is that everything in your life happens for a reason, and usually the reason is good.  How do I know this?  Because, we live in a friendly and loving universe that is always conspiring for life’s greatest good.  I know this is a hard fact to swallow.  Particularly, after a break up, and even more so when you look at some of the seemingly unfavorable circumstances in your life.  However, by using this affirmation, you are reminding yourself of this truth.

I have the right to be happy!

The fourth affirmation to help you get over your ex is: “I have the right to be happy!”

The last thing most of us can think about after a break up is our own happiness.  Often, we spend more time wallowing about what was, what could have been or how to win our ex back.  Rarely do we take the time to focus on what is going to make us feel good about ourselves and how to start living again. 

By repeating this affirmation to yourself several times throughout the day, you create a shift in your subconscious mind.  On the conscious surface you may be thinking about how hurt or angry you are over the break up.  However, by repeating this affirmation several times throughout the day, you will slowly and unconsciously begin to shift your attention to your truest intention — which is to be happy!

I can begin again

The last and final affirmation to help you get over your ex is: “I can begin again.” 

In most cases, no one wants to think about what life can be after a broken heart.  However, it is hard to mend your broken heart if you do not speak love to your own heart.  Sure, you have “the right” to be hurt, angry and even resentful.  The question then becomes, for how long?  And, to what purpose?

Eventually, you will have to get over the break up and move on with your life.  To help you do that use this affirmation to remind yourself that you can begin again — right now!  You can begin dating again.  You can begin to feel happy, and release your anger and pain.  The question is not, “how?” It is, “when?” Say this affirmation whenever you start to feel as if your life will always be the way it is currently. 

Why you should use affirmations 

Affirmations are a great way to help you get over your ex because they help you remind YOU that you will get through this.  All too often we begin to believe that the pain and hurt we feel during a break up is how we will feel forever.  However, we are not our circumstances.  The experiences we now have are merely a brief moment in the journey of our lives. 

I highly recommend you use all of these affirmations to help you get over a break up.  And, since I love hearing from all of you and receiving your emails, please do share which of these affirmations resonated with you the most!  Also, if you have an affirmation you recommend that I did not share, feel free to email it to me at info@findinghappily.com. 

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