Can A Broke Man Date Or Is He Undateable?

Can’t Afford To Date?

Recently, I read the following post on Facebook from a man that wanted to know whether a broke man can or should date:

I responded to his question with the following:

Any man that wants to date can and should date if he chooses to. The question then becomes why any man would believes that his  financial status makes him un-dateable?  Let’s take a closer look:

If you are a man that keeps attracting women that are rejecting you or not into you (because you are broke), why do you keep choosing women that are looking for  men with money?  Perhaps you are choosing women that reject you because of your own insecurities surrounding money?  Or could it be that you have a low self-esteem, and the story about your lack of money is merely an excuse?   In either case it’s time to change your story. 

How do you change your story?

According to the guy that wrote the post, he is an attractive 30-year old that considers himself “good husband” material.   The issue, in my opinion is not his financial circumstances, but his story about women.  I know for a fact, that there are plenty of great women looking for a good man, not an ATM.  Therefore, any man that operates off of the assumption that a woman would not date a broke man is simply operating off of his beliefs about women.  Beliefs are not true like gravity, so until this guy or any man like him, is willing to change their story, they will remain single and alone forever. 

The first thing you can do if your belief is that you can’t afford to date is seek new ways to change the way you think about dating.  In other words change of your B. S. (Belief Systems)  The easiest way to do this is to first change your internal dialogue, i.e., your story.  And, choose one that fits the outcome and the desires that you seek.  Therefore, if you really want to get into a romantic relationship with a woman that loves you and who you love back, stop telling yourself that you can’t afford to date, and start telling yourself how wonderful it will be when you meet a woman that accepts you for who you are. 

Now, at first when you start changing your B.S. (Belief-Systems) the new stories you tell yourself will feel like lies.  Since you’ve been lying to yourself for so long, your mind will try to trick you into believing that anything new, i.e., new programming, is not true.  However, by changing the the internal dialogue, you reprogram your mind with a new story that is more self serving.  How do I know this?  I know this because it is a Universal Law.

What are universal laws?

Universal laws are principles by which everything in the universe is governed by these laws. [Click here to read more about Universal Laws here.] Therefore, if your personal experience is that you are single because you are broke, according to the Universal Laws, once you change your thoughts,  your experiences will change — i.e., The Law Of Attraction.  You can see a clear indication that your internal thoughts are creating your negative experiences by paying attention to your current circumstances — because your outer world reflects your inner world.  Therefore if you are struggling, alone, depressed or in a rut, then you are on the negative side of the pendulum.  But, if you change your thoughts you get to create a new frequency that changes your outer circumstances.

If you are a man that wants to date, but your belief is that you can’t afford to date,  then change your circumstances. Since we are not our circumstances this should be an easy task.  On the other hand if your circumstances is what it is, then the next thing you can do is change your story.  Instead of thinking about what you do not have or what you cannot afford focus your energy on what you can do.  There are plenty of date activities that do not costs a thing.  Your job is to choose something that sounds fun, ask a woman out, and enjoy your life.

Have you ever dated a woman that liked you for you, but you felt insecure about not having enough money to date her? Or, have you dated a woman that rejected you because you didn’t have any money?  I’d love to hear from you so feel free to share your responses.