As you move into a new year you might be wondering what you can do to improve the relationship you’re in or create a new relationship, and the key is attraction.  Whether you’re single or in a relationship, who you’re attracted to and who you’re attracting into your life is based off of the message you’re putting out.  For singles this might look like meeting a lot of bad first date prospects.  And, for people in relationships, this might look like arguing with your partner all the time.  In either case, if you’re not getting what you want in your relationships, it’s likely due to attraction.   So that I can help you appear more attractive than you really are, here are 7 things you can do.

How To Appear More Attractive Than You Really Are:

Stop Complaining:

No one wants to hear about your problems, particularly when you’re complaining about the same thing you complain about all the time.  Instead, do something to change your circumstances. People who have their $h!T together appear more attractive, therefore whatever it is you’re going through, fit it or let it go

Smile More:

Regardless what’s going on in your life turn your frown upside down. Smiling releases chemical hormones that make you feel good, and when you feel good you look good, and when you look good people like being around you.

Eye Contact:

The eyes are the window to the soul. When you look people in the eyes you appear more confident, and confidence creates attractiveness. According to Tim Farris, the most successful people in the world have the ability to maintain eye contact with anyone, anywhere.  Therefore if you want to attract someone who is confident, you must be willing to use your eyes to lure them in.  Like attracts like!

Don’t Be Jealous:

When you waste your time and energy being jealous about what someone else has that you do not perceive you have, you block your blessings. Instead focus your attention on feeling good and wish others well, instead of being jealous of them.  If you’re in a relationship, don’t be jealous of your partner accusing him or her of wanting to be with someone else.  Instead, focus your attention on being a loving supportive individual.  Otherwise the more you push, the more they will run away.  For singles, do not long after the relationship someone else has, saying I wish I had that too, or not feeling happy for them.  Instead, wish them well. Remember, life is like a boomerang, what you give out, you get back.  Therefore when you’re happy for others they will be happy for you.

Be Interesting:

Instead of sitting around wishing, hoping and praying for something good to happen, make it happen. People that are doing their own thing appear more interesting. And, the more interesting you are, the more attractive you’ll appear.  Think about celebrities, we watch them because they are good at what they do on screen or on stage.  The same for your favorite YouTube influencer, they seem to have exciting lives and share all the great things they love doing.  Well, you can do those things too!  Not exactly like them, but in your own way.

Put Your Best Self Forward:

Whenever you’re going to come in contact with other people, don’t walk out of the house not caring about what you look like.  Even if you’re not the most attractive person you will appear more attractive because you take pride in your overall presentation.  Maya Angelou wrote a poem called, phenomenal Woman, and she talks about the inner beauty of a woman.

Choose To Be Happy No Matter What:

Even when you’re having a bad day or things aren’t going right, choose to be happy no matter what. Happy people attract happy people.  You are not your circumstances, therefore whatever it is that you’re going through is subjective to what you perceive you’re going through. Sure, you could be going through some really hard times, however, if you already feel bad, why do anything that’s going to make you feel worse. Instead, make a decision to grow through what you go through, instead of feeling bad about your situation.  Because the happier you are the more attractive you’ll appear.

To Conclude:

The most attractive people in the world have nothing more than what you have.  They are humans being, whatever and whoever they came here to be.  That said, if you want to experience more love, joy and happiness in your life, then attract that.  If you want to be in a happy, loving relationship, attract that.  Hopefully, with these 7 tips, you can appear more attractive than you really are.  Because, the more attractive you are, the better chances you’ll have at attracting who you want, and what you want.

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