Are You Really Too Busy to Date?

Many of my clients come to me clearly stating they want to find love.  However, when I ask them why they are single, their response is because they are too busy to date.  My question then becomes, “are you really too busy to date,” or is there some reason you will not make time for love?  

There are instances that prevent people from diving into a relationship.  For instance, studying for the Bar Exam, launching a new startup or taking on a new promotion can minimize your free time.  On the other hand, it is also possible that some people are simply unwilling to invest time in dating.  While others are not really looking to get into a serious committed relationship.

As a busy professional it can be challenging to balance work, life and dating. If you’re like most single professionals you’re too exhausted to plan a social life, so instead you end up binge watching Netflix, or hanging out at the same old “meat markets” to find love.  However, when you make time for dating you increase your chances of finding love.  The key is balance, strategy and consistency. 

Below I have outlined a few things you can start doing, even if you are really too busy to date.  But keep in mind, if you truly want to find love, but are not dating, you will not find love.  

#1 Be Productive Not Busy

Being busy makes people feel stressed out.  While being productive helps people stay focused.  Therefore manage your time to include dating as a priority to your to-do-list.

#2 Be Open to Meeting New People Doing The Things You Do

You don’t have to come up with something new to meet someone new.  But, do be open to meeting new people doing the things you love to do.  For instance, when you are at the gym, grocery store, or out for a cup of coffee make it a point to introduce yourself to someone new.

#3 Be Innovative

Once you can manage your time better, add innovative ideas to your calendar to meet someone new.  You can join a Meetup Group for hiking, photography or sign up for a new book club.  So long as you choose something you truly enjoy doing.  The key is scheduling the time and putting yourself out there.

#4 Ask For Help

Don’t be afraid to ask for help!  If you work at an office ask a colleague to set you up on a date with someone they know.  You can also hire a relationship specialist or a matchmaker if you are really serious about meeting someone. “Closed mouths don’t get fed.”  Therefore, ask people you know or a professional for help.

If you are really too busy to date because of a  hectic schedule or a busy lifestyle, dating should not be off the table.  Particularly if you truly desire to find love.  I wrote this article for you because I wanted to share a few small simple changes you can make to find love.  Like I mentioned above, many of my clients come to me clearly stating how busy they are.  However, the techniques I outlined above have helped many of them improve their situations, and perhaps can now help you. 

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