I am getting a bit tired of seeing videos celebrating being single. And before you come for me, I’m not talking about people simply living their lives and enjoying what they do. I’m talking about those cringe videos where someone is just going about their day, then adds a text overlay saying how happy they are being single or childless.
These videos come across as cringe and disingenuous, and here’s why.
I don’t have anything against being single. In fact, if you’re happier being single, then live your life and celebrate it.
However, if you feel the need to add a text overlay saying, “Enjoying my single life,” I don’t actually believe you’re happy being single.
The same way I would find it cringe if a woman posted a video saying how incredibly happy she was being married or in a relationship. No one would believe her either. In fact, many people would assume that if she has to announce it, maybe things aren’t as wonderful as she’s trying to convince everyone they are.
Some people would even take it a step further—scrutinizing every post, looking up her partner, criticizing his appearance, his behavior, and everything else they can find.
There is nothing wrong with celebrating our lives.
Celebrate a new job.
Celebrate your marriage.
Celebrate your divorce.
Celebrate overcoming a difficult season.
Celebrate finally taking that trip you’ve dreamed about.
Celebrate buying your first home.
Celebrate the things you’re genuinely proud of.
But posting a text overlay declaring how happy you are being single feels different.
It doesn’t convince people you’re happy.
If anything, it makes people question it.
Because if you truly are happy—whether you’re single or in a relationship—you simply live your life.
Period.
Now, I realize relationships aren’t for everyone.
Despite my belief that we aren’t meant to live completely alone—that human beings are wired for connection—I also recognize that some people simply don’t want a romantic relationship, or aren’t emotionally, mentally, or physically willing or able to share their lives with another person.
And that’s perfectly okay.
In fact, I’d much rather see someone happily single than trapped in a miserable relationship.
I think that’s what many of these creators are actually trying to communicate.
Unfortunately, instead of expressing that message honestly, they package it with performative text overlays celebrating their singleness, and ironically, it often has the opposite effect.
I have a lot of respect for people who choose to live life entirely on their own terms.
They go where they want.
They do what they want.
They date—or don’t date—whomever they choose.
They enjoy freedom without attachments or obligations.
That’s absolutely their choice.
But when I see videos saying things like “So happy living my single life” or “Loving my child-free life,” I can’t help thinking how cringe it would be if a happily married mother posted the opposite.
Just look at how people react to trad wives or women like Nara Smith.
She gets criticized simply for choosing marriage and motherhood.
Imagine if she posted a video saying, “I absolutely love my married life with children.”
The internet would lose its mind.
Happy people don’t usually announce nuanced things like this.
They’re simply living.
And no, I’m not saying you can’t be proud of your life or celebrate it.
I’m saying performative, clickbait-style declarations don’t convince me.
They often do the opposite.
When I see them, I don’t think, “Wow, they’re happy.”
I usually think,
“Who are you trying to convince?”
Relationships—when they’re healthy—can be a beautiful thing.
But they aren’t for everyone.
They also take work.
Real work.
Before I met my husband, I focused on building a loving relationship with myself.
I took myself on dates.
I bought myself flowers.
I traveled alone.
I went to restaurants alone.
I went to the movies alone.
Sometimes I was with friends.
Sometimes I wasn’t.
I learned to enjoy my own company.
I allowed myself to be alone.
I allowed myself to feel lonely.
Only after I knew who I was and became comfortable being alone did I decide I wanted to share my life with someone else.
My biggest fear wasn’t being single.
It was ending up in another unhealthy relationship where I felt like I was giving far more than I was receiving.
Those fears faded once I learned to recognize in a partner the same qualities I had worked so hard to develop within myself.
Even now, I don’t push my lifestyle onto anyone.
Yes, I help people build healthier relationships.
Yes, I invite people to learn from me.
But that’s their choice.
My message has never been,
“Look how amazing my marriage is.”
My message is simply this:
I live a happy, healthy life, and if that’s something you want too, I’d love to help you build it.
But I would never feel the need to convince strangers by putting cringe text across my videos announcing how happy I am.
Relationships are essential to the human experience.
Whether they’re romantic, professional, family relationships, or friendships, healthy relationships help us navigate life.
They help us grow.
They help us thrive.
That’s why, when I see someone constantly announcing how happy they are being single, I sometimes wonder if they’re confusing independence with isolation.
If you’re genuinely happy being single, wonderful.
Celebrate your life.
Not with a text overlay trying to convince everyone else.
Simply live it.
Because the people who connect with that kind of confidence won’t need you to announce it.
They’ll see it.
