You probably remember that really old song called Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places. This could describe the search that many people go on to find that elusive love that they’ve been hoping will find its way to them. There are too many people in the world that do keep looking for love in all of the wrong places they possibly could. If this is you, it’s possible that you don’t even realize you’re doing it. What you probably do realize, though, is that you time after time, you meet someone in the wrong place at the wrong time. And you keep striking out over and over again in the game of love.

Are you hoping to find that special connection with someone by indulging in bar hopping? While that almost always works when it comes to one night stands, you probably won’t find your true love in a night club. That’s not to say that it won’t ever happen, but the odds are usually not that high when it comes to long term romance and forever after relationships. It’s fun to go to out dancing with friends to have a great time. However, night clubs are just about having fun, so keep that in mind.

If you’re trying to find someone to form a true relationship with, it’s probably a good idea to get to know that person from the inside out. That way, you can discover what sort of person he or she is and whether or not either of you has anything in common.

Many people choose to do this through online contact. Such as chat rooms as well as the explosion of online dating websites. These sites offer the opportunity for people looking for potential partners to scan personal profiles, list their own, and match up with website members that they seem compatible with. This is a method that has worked successfully in a lot of cases.

In this same vein, there are also relationship coaches, and match making companies that take charge of connecting people with eligible relationship prospects. Of course, some of these companies and services cost a lot of money. But, for many people the price for a healthy, loving and long term relationship is well worth the cost.

You can also join various clubs, community and groups where others have the same interests as you. These are the very places that you’ll find someone that can end up being the one you’ve been searching for all this time. Many communities have singles events and groups that you can join so that you can interact and become acquainted with other singles that are also looking for love. This method can be more effective than those you pay for.

Just keep in mind that when you’re looking for love for all the right reasons in the wrong places, pay close attention to the places you’re looking in. Your relationship success depends on it.

Collette Gee is a Certified Neuro-Linguistic Practitioner, a Violence Prevention Specialist and a Matchmaker, and Holistic Relationship Coach that helps men and women create and sustain healthy relationship patterns and behaviors. Learn more about Collette Gee