One thing that people seem to forget in their relationships is the fact that you have to have a sense of humor.There are going to be plenty of times in your lives together that you are going to need to laugh to keep your relationship going strong. Of course, you are going to have to figure out when the appropriate times are to laugh and when it’s probably not such a good idea. After a few years of marriage, you shouldn’t have too much of a problem figuring out those times, though.
Everyone feels better when they laugh. After all, laughter improves relationships. You just have to be able to find the humor in the moments that most people wouldn’t. If you get upset at every little aspect of your life that goes wrong, then you are going to end up being a very angry person when as you get older and you will probably be alone to boot. If only you would have laughed a bit more, you would probably be a happily married individual with a loving family. Instead, you are sitting in a nursing home bitching about the taste of the pea soup again.
Everything that happens in your life can have a funny anecdote to it. You just have to look hard enough to find one. Your relationship with your partner is going to have moments where nothing seems to go right and everything is falling apart around you. Don’t give up and don’t give in to the anger that is building up inside you. Instead, find something to laugh about and get your partner to join in with you. Even if you have to sit down together and talk about funny things that have happened in your lives before you met each other.
Finding things to laugh about and enjoying the time you are sharing together will strengthen your relationship to the point that nothing can affect it. You won’t have to worry about being upset and saying things neither one of you actually means and you can do more things together. You can’t live your life in a bad mood. It’s been tried before, and those people are never fun to be around. You have to make things in your life better for both of you and laughing is the easiest way of accomplishing that.
When things have got you down and there seems like there is nowhere for you to turn, just remember that you have a partner that is there for you. The two of you can work through any obstacles that beset you and you should always remember to laugh. Nothing is better than having a person that will laugh with you rather than at you, and your partner should be that type of person. When it comes down to it, you have to be able to give your partner your attention and your love, but you should also remember to give them your sense of humor anytime it may be needed.
Collette Gee is a Certified Neuro-Linguistic Practitioner, a Violence Prevention Specialist and a Matchmaker, and Holistic Relationship Coach that helps men and women create and sustain healthy relationship patterns and behaviors. Learn more about Collette Gee